Get to Know You Questions

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What’s something small that always makes your day better?

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Easy get to know you questions

Start here when you are not sure how deep to go.

01What's something small that always makes your day better?
02What have you always wanted to learn? Try asking: What first sparked your interest in it?
03What could you talk about for hours without getting bored? Try asking: How did you first get into it?
04What's one place you'd love to visit just for the food?
05What makes you laugh every time, no matter what?
06What's your favorite way to spend a free Saturday? Try asking: Who would you bring along?
07What's the best trip you've ever taken?
08What song instantly puts you in a good mood?
09What's a small habit that improved your life?
10What's your go-to comfort meal?
11Are you a morning person or a night owl?
12What's the best gift you've ever received?
13What does your perfect lazy day look like?
14What's something on your bucket list? Try asking: Which one would you do first?
15Do you prefer cities, beaches, or mountains?
16What's your favorite season and why?
17What's the most interesting place you've ever eaten?
18What hobby have you always wanted to try?
19What's a movie you can watch over and over?
20What's your favorite thing about where you live?
21Do you like routines or spontaneity more?
22What's the best concert or live event you've been to?
23What's a fun fact most people don't know about you?
24If you had an extra hour every day, how would you spend it?
25What's your favorite way to stay in touch with people?
26What's been the highlight of your week so far? Try asking: What made it the highlight?
27What did you do last weekend?
28Are you working on anything fun right now?
29What's one thing you're looking forward to?
30How do you usually spend your evenings?
31What's the last great meal you had?
32Do you have any trips coming up?
33What show are you watching right now?
34What's your go-to coffee or tea order?
35What did you want to be when you grew up?
36What's a hobby you've picked up recently?
37What's the best thing you ate this week?
38Are you from around here originally?
39What do you do to recharge after a long day?
40What's something fun you did growing up in your hometown?
41What's your favorite app on your phone right now?
42Do you prefer cooking at home or eating out?
43What's a skill you'd love to learn just for fun?
44What's the most beautiful city you've visited?
45What's keeping you busy these days?
46What's been on your mind a lot lately?
47What's something exciting happening in your life? Try asking: What is the best thing that could happen there?
48What are you reading, watching, or listening to right now?
49What's the best thing that happened to you this month?
50What's a place that feels like home to you?
51What's your favorite thing to do when you have zero plans?
52What's one thing on your mind this week?
53What's your favorite local spot most visitors miss?
54What's a recent small win you're happy about?
55Do you have any pets? Tell me about them.
56What's your favorite way to spend a Sunday?
57What's the story behind where you live now?
58What's your favorite holiday and how do you spend it?
59What's a place near you that you still haven't visited? Try asking: What has kept you from going so far?
60What's your favorite smell that brings back memories?
61What's the best breakfast you've ever had?
62Who would you invite to your dream dinner party?
63Window seat or aisle seat? Defend your answer.
64How many unread messages is too many?
65What is your go to party trick or story?
66What is one thing you want the team to know about you?
67What is the best thing about this week so far?
68What is the best dinner conversation you have ever had?
69Rank these: money, freedom, stability, adventure.
70What meal tastes like your childhood?
71What song takes you straight back to a specific moment?
72Which movie character did you want to be growing up?
73What hobby makes you lose track of time?
74What is the best part of your daily routine?
75If you had to be creative for a living, what would you make?
76What is the nicest thing a stranger has done for you?
77Pick one: sunrise hike or midnight city walk?
78Any good plans for the weekend?
79What is the highlight of a normal Tuesday for you?
80Who made your week better without knowing it?
81What would you create if nobody would ever judge it?
82What is your signature party story?
83Do you prefer one deep conversation or five fun ones?
84Group chat or group call?
85What is the best party you have ever been to?
86Where did you last travel, and was it worth it?
87What is your favorite thing to do after midnight?
88What song never fails to get you moving?
89What would you do with a free creative hour every day?
90What is your favorite hour of the day?
91What is something fun happening in your life right now?
92If you had to teach a class tomorrow, what would it be?

Fun get to know you questions

For loosening up and getting people laughing.

01What's the funniest text you've sent to the wrong person?
02What is your most useless talent? Try asking: When did that talent last come in handy?
03What's the weirdest food combination you actually enjoy? Try asking: Where did you first try that combo?
04What would your warning label say?
05What's the most embarrassing song on your playlist?
06If your life had a blooper reel, what would be on it?
07What's the silliest argument you've ever had?
08What animal would you be, and why is it slightly insulting?
09What's your go-to dance move when nobody's watching?
10What broke-people meal do you still love?
11What's the worst haircut you've ever had?
12If you were a kitchen appliance, which one would you be?
13What's something you do that you know is irrational?
14What's the longest you've gone without showering on a trip?
15What movie do you quote way too often?
16What's your most controversial food opinion?
17What would you do first if you were invisible for a day?
18What's the strangest dream you still remember?
19What's your toxic trait when playing board games?
20What's the pettiest hill you will die on?
21What's your most-used emoji, and what does it say about you?
22What's the worst gift you've ever pretended to like?
23If you had to eat one meal forever, what would survive the longest before you snapped?
24What's a sound you are weirdly good at imitating?
25What's the most dramatic overreaction you've had to minor inconvenience?
26What would your reality show confessional catchphrase be?
27What's the weirdest thing in your search history this week?
28Do you have a celebrity impression? Let's hear the backstory.
29What's a lie you told as a kid that got wildly out of hand?
30What's the funniest misunderstanding you've had while traveling?
31What outfit do you love that everyone else questions?
32What's your villain origin story from customer service?
33What's the most chaotic group chat you're in?
34What would you name your boat if you had one tomorrow?
35What's something everyone else loves that you secretly hate?
36What's the best wrong answer you've confidently given?
37If your pet could talk, what would it complain about?
38What's your signature karaoke song?
39What's the laziest genius hack you're proud of?
40What's a trend you joined way too late?
41What's your most-used excuse to get out of plans?
42What did you think was normal until way too late in life?
43What's your Roman Empire, the thing you think about constantly?
44What's the worst fashion choice you've committed to?
45What's a hill from childhood opinions you still defend?
46What is the weirdest compliment you have ever received?
47What would the title of your autobiography be?
48What is something you do that would confuse an alien?
49If you woke up famous tomorrow, what would you do first?
50What food do you eat in a way nobody else does?
51What is your most dramatic first world problem?
52What is your most impressive useless skill?
53Which movie do you pretend to have seen?
54What is the strangest thing you believed as a kid?
55What is your villain origin story from group projects?

Interesting questions

Opinions, taste, and curiosity.

01What's something you know a surprising amount about?
02What's the most interesting place you've ever worked or studied?
03If you could master any subject overnight, what would it be? Try asking: What would you do with that skill first?
04What's a rabbit hole you recently fell into online?
05What's something the world would be better off without?
06What's the coolest thing you've made or built?
07What historical period would you want to visit for a week?
08What's a documentary everyone should watch?
09What's an opinion you held strongly and then completely flipped on?
10What's the best museum you've ever visited?
11What invention do you think changed everyday life the most?
12What's a language you'd love to speak fluently?
13What's something you believed as a kid that turned out to be wrong?
14What's the most beautiful place you've seen in person?
15What question do you love being asked?
16What's a tradition from another culture you admire?
17What's the best piece of trivia you know?
18If you could interview anyone alive, who would it be?
19What's a city you could explore for weeks without getting bored?
20What unsolved mystery fascinates you the most?
21Are you more competitive or cooperative?
22What food reminds you of home?
23An artist you love that nobody else seems to know?
24What movie ending would you rewrite?
25What hobby do you think everyone should try once?
26What small thing do most people underestimate?
27What norm from ten years ago already feels ancient?

Deep get to know you questions

Save these for when the conversation is flowing.

01What opinion have you completely reversed as you've gotten older?
02When do you feel most at peace with yourself?
03What does a good life mean to you right now? Try asking: What would change about your days if you took that seriously?
04What's a hard truth you've had to accept?
05What are you afraid people would think if they really knew you?
06What experience shaped you more than anything else?
07What do you want to be remembered for? Try asking: What is one small way you already live up to that?
08When was the last time you cried, and why?
09What does forgiveness look like to you?
10What's something you pretend to be okay with but aren't?
11What do you value most in the people closest to you?
12What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Try asking: What would you attempt if failure did not count?
13How do you handle feeling lonely?
14What's a belief you hold that you rarely share?
15What season of life are you in right now?
16What do you need to let go of?
17Who do you call when everything goes wrong?
18What's the most meaningful compliment you've received?
19What are you most proud of that isn't on your resume?
20How has your idea of happiness changed over time?
21What do you wish more people understood about you?
22What's something you grieve that others might not see as loss?
23What small moment from the past year meant a lot to you?
24Do you feel like you're living the life you imagined?
25What helps you get through hard days?
26What's a question you wish people asked you more often?
27What does home feel like to you?
28What's the kindest thing someone has done for you?
29How do you want to grow in the next year?
30What part of yourself are you still trying to understand?
31What conversation changed the way you see the world?
32What are you holding onto that you should probably forgive?
33What would your 80-year-old self tell you today?
34What's a risk that actually paid off for you?
35When did you last feel truly understood?
36What has been your hardest goodbye?
37What would you stand up for even if it cost you?
38What experience changed the way you see things?
39Who knows you better than anyone?
40What do you want your life to add up to?
41What memory do you return to when you need comfort?
42When did you first feel like an adult?
43What has love taught you the hard way?
44What are you chasing that might not matter in five years?
45What ending are you still making peace with?
46Who do you still need to thank properly?

Questions for new friends

Light questions for people you recently met.

01When we first met, what happened from your side? Try asking: How differently do you remember it?
02What's your favorite memory of us together? Try asking: What would you add to that memory?
03If we started a business together, what would it be?
04What's the most spontaneous thing we've done?
05What trip should we take together next?
06What's a song that always reminds you of me?
07What's the funniest thing that's happened to us?
08What's something we both love that nobody else gets?
09If we were in a band, what would our band name be?
10What's your love language as a friend?
11What's the best meal we've shared?
12What would be our perfect weekend together?
13Who in our friend group is most likely to become famous?
14What's a new hobby we should try together?
15What's the best advice I've ever given you?
16What reality show would we be amazing on?
17What's something I do that always makes you laugh?
18If we swapped lives for a day, what would surprise me?
19What's our most-used inside joke?
20What food could you eat with me every week and never get tired of?
21What's the best road trip we could plan on a budget?
22Which movie character are each of us most like?
23What's the most useful thing you've learned from me?
24What would you do if we won a weekend getaway together?
25What's a tradition we should start?
26What's the bravest thing you've seen me do?
27What's a movie night pick you will always defend?
28What's the best concert or event we should go to together?
29What's your takeout order when we hang out?
30What is the story of how we met, from your side?
31What should we do together for the first time?
32What is our most iconic duo moment?
33What would teenage us think of us now?
34Which one of us is more likely to cancel plans?
35What is your texting style, fast replies or three day gaps?
36What is your role at a party?
37Are you a DJ, navigator, or backseat sleeper on road trips?
38What is something only a best friend could get away with saying to you?
39What is our go to order when we eat together?
40What is the latest we have ever stayed up talking?
41What is our ideal group size for a night out?
42Have we ever had a great conversation over text that beat meeting up?
43If our friendship had a theme song, what would it be?

Get to know you questions for couples

For the person you already know best.

01When do you feel most loved by me?
02What is your favorite memory of us so far? Try asking: What makes that memory stand out for you?
03What is something I do that always makes you feel safe?
04What should our next date night look like?
05How have we grown as a couple since we met?
06What small habit of mine makes you smile?
07What does support look like to you when you're stressed?
08What do you think is our greatest strength as a couple?
09What trip do you want us to take together?
10What's something new we should try together?
11How do you want us to handle disagreements better?
12What does romance mean to you beyond grand gestures?
13What's your favorite thing about our everyday routine?
14Is there a dream you want us to chase together?
15When have you felt closest to me? Try asking: What was happening right before that moment?
16What's the funniest memory we share?
17What do you appreciate most about how we met?
18What are you most excited about for our future?
19How can I make ordinary days feel more special for you?
20What is your ideal cozy night in with me?
21What do you think we should do more often together?
22What fear about our future can I help ease?
23What's a small way I could love you better this week?
24What's your favorite photo of us, and why?
25What household task should we always do together?
26What surprised you most about me early on?
27When did you first realize this was serious?
28What is something small I did that meant a lot?
29What have we gotten better at since year one?
30What do you want the next five years of us to look like?
31What is a silly thing we still do that you hope never stops?
32What is the first thing we should do next time we are together?
33What is hardest about the distance right now?
34If we could have dinner anywhere in the world tomorrow, where?
35When did you feel most romantic toward me?
36What is the most romantic thing I have ever done without realizing it?
37Where do you picture us in ten years?
38What is your favorite thing about falling asleep next to me?
39What is one thing we should learn together this year?
40What is your favorite tiny part of our routine?
41What is your favorite photo of us and why?

Get to know you questions for coworkers

Work safe and actually interesting.

01What job did you dream about as a kid?
02What's your favorite way to start the workday?
03Do you prefer working from home or in the office?
04What's a skill you'd love to learn for your career?
05What's the best team you've ever been part of?
06How do you like to unwind after a busy week?
07What's your go-to lunch order?
08What's the most useful work advice you've received?
09Do you have a favorite productivity trick?
10What part of your job do you enjoy most?
11What's a fun project you worked on outside of work?
12If you could swap roles with anyone for a day, who would it be?
13What's your ideal team outing?
14What's one thing that helps you focus?
15What's the best compliment you've gotten at work?
16What's your favorite meeting snack?
17What's one tool you can't do your job without?
18What's the best work trip or offsite you've had?
19How do you celebrate finishing a big project?
20What's your number one tip for a new person joining the team?
21What surprised you most in your first week here?
22Do you do your best work alone or with the team around?
23What makes a great teammate in your experience?
24What is your ideal work lunch break?
25What is the best work event you have been to?
26What do you get up to outside of work?
27Would you rather lead the project or be the secret weapon?
28What is your best work from home ritual?
29What is the most creative solution you have seen at work?

Questions that go beyond small talk

One level deeper than usual.

01What's a story your friends always ask you to retell?
02What's something you're hoping the next few months bring?
03What's a question you wish strangers asked instead of small talk?
04What's something you could give a short speech about with no prep?
05What's a belief you picked up from your family?
06What's a challenge that taught you something important?
07What's something you're looking forward to learning?
08Where would you move tomorrow if work allowed it?
09Who has believed in you when you did not?

Questions for long conversations

Meaty enough to carry an evening.

01What is something you've changed your mind about recently? Try asking: What finally tipped you over?
02What do most people get wrong about you?
03What do you want to get better at this year?
04What is a skill you have that surprises people?
05When do you feel most like yourself?
06What did you love doing as a kid that you still enjoy?
07What are you quietly proud of?
08What's a piece of advice you'd give your younger self? Try asking: What would you tell yourself at half your current age?
09What does a meaningful friendship look like to you?
10What is a goal you're working toward right now?
11What helps you feel calm when life gets busy?
12Who has influenced you the most?
13What do you believe that most people disagree with?
14What are you most grateful for right now? Try asking: Who are you most thankful to right now?
15What's something you learned the hard way?
16What's something you've never told me but want me to know?
17When have I helped you the most without realizing it?
18What do you think we're each best at?
19How have we changed since we first met?
20What do you need more of in your life right now?
21What's a goal I can help you with this year?
22Is there anything you've been avoiding telling me?
23What does being a good friend mean to you?
24When do you feel closest to the people you love?
25What are you most excited about in your life right now?
26What's something you're struggling with that I might not know?
27What kind of friend do you try to be?
28What's a dream you haven't told many people about? Try asking: What is stopping you from starting?
29How do you want to be supported when you're stressed?
30What's a hard time a friend really showed up for you?
31What's something you're trying to do differently this year?
32What's a compliment that stuck with you?
33What do you do when you need a fresh start?
34What is something you have never told anyone in our group?
35When did you realize we were best friends?
36What do you think I need to hear right now?
37What is the oldest memory you have of us?
38How have we surprised each other over the years?
39Have you ever been jealous of a friend? What happened?
40Who in your life knows you best after me?
41What is a question you think about when you cannot sleep?
42Have you ever made a real friend entirely online?
43How do you stay close to people who live far away?
44What is something you used to believe that you no longer agree with?
45What is a habit you are secretly proud of keeping?
46Tell me about a perfect ordinary day from your past.
47What part of your work feels most meaningful?
48What did school never teach you that you had to learn alone?
49What makes a day feel successful to you?
50What do you look for first in a new friend?
51How do you know when you really trust someone?
52What is the best lesson getting older has taught you?
53What is something about you that has never changed?
54What change are you most resisting right now?
55When do you feel most confident?
56What do you wish people asked you more often?
57What are you working through at the moment?
58What did you love most about where you grew up?
59Where would you go tomorrow if the trip were free?
60What did you dream about becoming before life got practical?
61What is one goal you actually tell people about?
62What era of our friendship was the best so far?
63What is something you have been meaning to tell me?
64What does being loved well look like to you?
65When did you last feel truly cared for?
66What is a goal you keep secret because saying it makes it real?
67What keeps you up at night in a good way?
68What is your number one road trip rule?
69What is the kindest thing I have ever done for you?
70What is something you are better at than you admit?
71What three words would your friends use for you?

Follow up questions

Each one comes with a natural second question.

01What's your favorite subject, and what makes it click for you? Try asking: When did it first click for you?
02Would you rather always know the truth or always be hopeful? Try asking: Which one scares you more?
03Plan everything or go with the flow? Try asking: What does your last spontaneous decision say about you?

How to ask better questions

Short, practical, no fluff.

React before you ask the next question. A short comment keeps it feeling like talking, not quizzing.
Ask one follow up before moving on. Depth comes from staying, not switching.
Share your own answer too. Conversation works as a trade, not an interview.

Good to know

Getting more out of these questions

Start light and get more personal as the conversation warms up.
Follow the interesting answer, not your list. One good follow-up beats three new questions.
Share your own answer too, conversation is a trade, not an interview.

Want something more interactive?

Frequently asked questions

What is a good get to know you question?

A good one is open, specific, and easy to answer. “What could you talk about for hours?” works better than “Tell me about yourself” because it gives the other person a direction.

How do you get to know someone without being awkward?

Start light, match their energy, and follow up on what they say. One thoughtful follow-up question builds more connection than five rapid-fire ones.

What questions should I avoid with someone new?

Avoid anything about money, health, politics, or past relationships early on. If a question needs a long backstory to answer safely, save it for later.

How many questions should I ask in a row?

Two or three, then share something about yourself. Conversation works best as a trade, not an interview.